Affirmation Mourns Loss of Jeanne Barnett

October 27, 2003

Affirmation Mourns the Loss of Jeanne Barnett, but Her Work Lives On

Longtime Affirmation member Jeanne Barnett passed away peacefully on
October 1, 2003. A heart attack and complications from diabetes took
her from us. Her memorial service was held at St. Mark's United
Methodist Church in Sacramento, California on Saturday October 11
while our National Affirmation Council was meeting at Drew University,
Madison, NJ. Randy Miller, a former Co-spokesperson was the Council's
representative for Affirmation.

Co-spokesperson Peggy R. Gaylord reflected on knowing Jeanne and
Ellie. "While they are probably best known for their very public holy
union service almost five years ago performed by 150 lay and clergy
members ( See .)
and Jeanne being known as the Lesbian on the UMC General Conference
Study Committee on Homosexuality, the sole gay-identified voice until
Bill Kent was later added, Jeanne and Ellie were very private people
even though they were very active in Affirmation for years before
that. These public 'demonstrations' seemed out of character for

"However, they were always involved in a significant way even though
often more behind the scenes. About the time that I first became
heavily involved with Affirmation in the late 80's, Jeanne and Ellie
were becoming the National Coordinators of the Regional Organizers, of
which I was the Northeast Regional Organizer. This was during the
height of our chapter development work, with over 50 chapters
nationally, prior to the rise of Reconciling Congregations. Ellie
later served as Treasurer and Jeanne was Co-spokesperson for a period
of time after her stint on the Study Committee. They were involved in
many leadership roles for us, always willing to fill in wherever they
were needed; they've been wonderful contributors of their time,
energy, and financial resources. I know they were also very involved
in their local Affirmation, and active members in their local church
and on the church conference (regional) level in addition to these
other roles.

"But, as Anita Creamer of The Sacramento Bee wrote:

'Ultimately, life doesn't come down to political statements, no matter
how groundbreaking; it comes down to love. Barnett and Charlton were
partners for 20 years...'" ["Honoring one who stood up," October 13,

The next Affirmation newsletter will be dedicated to Jeanne Barnett.
If anyone would like to forward comments to umaffirmation@...
about her or the significance of her contributions by November 3,
2003, as many as possible will be incorporated into our memorial

Affirmation has also set up a memorial fund in Jeanne Barnett's name,
to be used for current and emerging issues. Any contributions may be
sent to The Jeanne Barnett Memorial Fund, c/o Affirmation, P.O. Box
1021, Evanston, IL 60204.

The National Affirmation Council has scheduled its next meeting in the
Sacramento area in January in order to join in the 5-year Anniversary
Celebration of Jeanne Barnett's and Ellie Charlton's Holy Union. The
purpose of this celebration is to reflect upon the progress over the
years and look to the future, as well as recognize the impact one such
witness event can have upon the church. The day-long event will
be Jan. 17, 2004, starting at 10:00 am.

According to the Rev. Don Fado, "Jeanne and Ellie saw the anniversary
celebration to be, not about them, but about what has happened in the
last five years in the movement toward full inclusion for glbt
persons in the church--and where we go from here. Among Jeanne's
last words to Ellie was the request to go ahead with the anniversary
celebration-- and that we will do." For more details, please contact
Rev. Fado at donfado@... or 4322 Alderwood Way, Sacramento,


The Rev. Peggy R. Gaylord, Affirmation Co-Spokesperson
607-723-4091; 607-725-7002 or aMiracleToday@...

The Rev. Kenneth Rowe, Affirmation Co-Spokesperson
415-595-0180 or kianrowe@...

Affirmation: United Methodists for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and
Transgender Concerns,